Sometimes things happen that are so unfathomable there are no words to express their impact. When someone is left hospitalised following a life-threatening accident, as H’s best man was in April this year, and someone dies on what should have been a holiday of a lifetime, as one of my friends did last week, it is beyond comprehension. I actually cannot believe I am writing these words. When things like this happen, it makes you look at the very best things you have in your life; your family, your children, your friends, and it makes you grateful with every ounce of love you have that they are in your life and you have each other.
I could not carry on writing this blog without acknowledging what has happened. It is not my place to discuss the why’s and wherefores, it is too personal, too raw and too hard. But this is a record for Zee and our future children that I want to continue, and I cannot leap from a post about Friends to perhaps a post about Zee learning to Sing and Sign without documenting this terrible time.
The irony is not lost on me that my last post was about Friends and now my close group of friends from school is going through one of the worst things we have ever encountered, as are H’s close friends from home. They say ‘your friends are the family you choose for yourself’. This quote speaks for itself. All we can do now is continue to look after each other and our friends’ families in what is an even worse time for them. It is true that life goes on; it has to, there is nothing else that can happen. But right now, it continues in sadness, punctuated with tears and worry and grief. We are staying strong and positive for A and we will do everything in our power to help him back to health. For B, we have the fondest of memories and each other for support.